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Please think about this: everything you feel, think, and do is totally your own responsibility.

All your reactions to others and to what they say or do to you are also your own responsibility. And all your reactions to neighborhood, community, and global events are also your own responsibility.

That means there is no one whom you can blame for how you feel about negative things…
Are you having a hard time swallowing that?

No Choice?
“No!” you cry. “I have no choice but to be afraid if I have been mugged, or horrified if I see a war unfolding, or hurt, if someone upsets my feelings. What else could I do? How else could I react?”

Indeed. How else? If you have been mugged, you could choose to take self-defense classes, in order to better protect yourself in future and in order to feel less afraid. You could join a neighborhood watch group to better protect the community.

In the case of war, you could work towards change in government in order to ensure that events of this nature have less and less possibility of repeating, and you could work on your own “war-like” reactions to other human beings in your daily life, in the knowledge that change is created one individual at a time.

In the instance of having your feelings hurt, you could decide to ask yourself why you were in that position in the first place; why that person is in your life, and decide that the best reaction is to look at your own role in the situation, rather than at how much you are hurt.

Not in order to blame yourself, but to ensure that situations of this nature have less and less chance of developing in your life, or that if they do, they will no longer have the power to hurt you. And you might choose not to allow such a person into your life in the first place.

Different Possible Realities? A lifetime is composed of choices. Each choice leads to a probable different possibility or reality. Not choosing is also a choice. The choices an individual makes literally set the scene for much of the joy and misery that subsequently take place in that life.

Are Some Choices Mistakes? Does this mean some choices are a mistake and others are right? That some choices lead you to a better place than others?

Who can Judge? Perhaps the way you ultimately feel about yourself is the benchmark. Evidently if you do not feel good about yourself, it is once again your choice to change that.

Choice and Freedom Choice - and the more we are willing to embrace our right to choose and see alternatives at every turn of the road - brings us closer and closer to the richness of ourselves, to the fullness of responsibility we have for ourselves, and hence brings us closer and closer to a manner of inner freedom that those who choose not to choose will never taste.

Dr. Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D.
relationship coach, author, and professional speaker.
www.advancedpersonaltherapy.com

Pet odors, smelly shoes, burned food in the kitchen - no need to run out and buy air freshener. There are plenty of deodorizers you already have around the house that can do the job - naturally!

1. Deodorize a dirty disposal with orange peels. Next time you eat an orange, just drop the peel down the sink and turn on the disposal. Citrus rinds contain fragrant essential oils and potent antiseptic and astringent properties that kill odor-causing germs.

2. Send pet odors packing with baking soda. Technically, it is sodium bicarbonate that absorbs odors from both surfaces and air. Simply sprinkle a little on rugs, couches, pet beds and other spots favored by your pooch or feline. Let sit for several hours or overnight, so it can work magic. Remove the powder with a vacuum and all that remains is fresh scent.

3. Say so long to smoke smells. Cigarette odors are tough but white vinegar is tougher! Pour vinegar in a few soup bowls and set around the smoke-scented room - the next day, the smoky stench should be gone. Also smart: Moisten an old towel with vinegar and wave through the room.

4. Zap microwave odors Did you heat your popcorn a little too long, and now the burning smell will not go away? Here is a sweet-smelling solution: Combine 1 tsp. vanilla extract with two cups water in a microwave-safe bowl, then heat on high for five minutes. Vanilla extract is a natural deodorizer that will take away the scorched stench - and replace it with the delicious aroma of just-baked goods.

2. A bright idea. Cheer up your bedroom with impact by painting your bed posts a sassy paprika hue. Research shows that orange hues are natural “uppers” that can actually boost your confidence.

3. Room to room color. The easy decorator’s trick to create a sense of more space in your home is to let a simple color scheme travel from room to room with little accessories - like dining room to kitchen.

4. Build on a neutral. The key to decorating with blue and orange is to begin with a neutral base. Colors like white, cream or even pale sand provide the perfect backdrop to let vibrant accessories like throw pillows or vases shine.

Here are a few ideas to help create a clean, healthy and sweet smelling bathroom.

1. Spray the tub with white vinegar. Fill a spray bottle and mist all bathroom surfaces. The acetic acid stops mold from growing and kills lingering odors.

2. Natural mildew eliminator. Combine 2 tsp. tea tree oil and 2 cups water in spray bottle. Shake and spray on mold and mildew. This solution should destroy on contact with no need to rinse away.   3. Ditch hidden sources. Toss out rarely used bottles of shampoo - breeding grounds for mold. 4. De-gunk the grout. Dip an old toothbrush in dish soap and use to scrub away mold between tile. 5. Clean shower curtains. Rub curtain with juice from one lemon. Lemon’s natural disinfectant stops mildew growth and eliminates odors. 6. Keep mold away. Apply small amount of car wax to clean shower walls and tiles to prevent mold from growing.

With so much in the news about the dangers of mold in your home, and the associated health risks, it is easy to get carried away with fear.

Mold has been with us since the beginning of time. Believe it or not, you already have mold in your house. Leave a loaf of bread on your counter for a couple of weeks and you will see it grow. All mold needs to thrive and multiply is a food source, a little water, and oxygen. Building materials are a good food source for mold spores. Add water (you do not need to add oxygen since it’s everywhere) and you have a mold problem. Water is the key to understanding and controlling mold since it is the only mold-growth factor you can control.

What To Do About Mold
You can clean mold yourself if it appears in small amounts. Mold in absorbent materials such as carpets, is difficult to clean. Better to just throw the carpet out. If you have a flood in your home, it is critical to dry things up quickly. Call in an expert who specializes in flood clean-up. Government web sites offer free and detailed guides on how to clean mold:
• Centers For Disease Control And Prevention:
www.cdc.gov
• Environmental Protection Agency:
www.epa.gov
• Canada Mortgage and Housing:
www.cmhc-schl.gc.ca

Preventative measures
• Deal promptly with water leakage in areas such as the roof, plumbing, and basement.
• Keep indoor humidity levels at 50% or lower. In cold climates during winter, 50% is still too high.
• Make sure your clothes dryer vents to the outside rather than into the house. Check the discharge pipe too, as these pipes often become disconnected.
• Use your bathroom ventilation fan when showering or bathing, and leave the fan running for about twenty minutes afterwards. Similarly, use your kitchen range hood to discharge steam outside when cooking.
• A central air-conditioning system effectively reduces humidity levels in warm weather. If areas of your home seem humid during air-conditioning season, you may develop a condensation problem. Sometimes adding a return air vent in the damp area, or adding a damper to the ducting that supplies the area, can improve humidity levels dramatically. Dehumidifiers also help.
Mold may be here to stay but it can be controlled. Look for dampness in your home and deal with it promptly.

Whether it is neat and orderly with books and papers, your desk sends clear signals about everything from your creativity to your ambition. Here’s what it means if your desk is:

Neat & organized: You are a success magnet. Detail-oriented and ambitious, your desk is just a stepping stone to the corner office.

Full of family photos: You are a charmer. You are a social star that others find likable and approachable.

Messy: You are a creative genius. A mountain of desk clutter is evidence that you are open-minded, curious and ready for more efficient problem solving.

Full of inspirational quotes: You are a leader. Wise and in-charge, you can be counted on for a smile or stress-busting joke.

1. Choose the weapon. Choose the weapon. Microfiber cloths and Wool dusters attract and hold dust, no dusting spray or furniture polish needed.

2. Clean the screen. Wipe TV and computer screens with fabric softener sheets to reduce dust-attracting static cling.

3. Two-in-one. Apply furniture polish with one side of an old oven mitt and use the other side to buff.

4. Squirt dirt. Squeeze an empty squirt bottle to blow dust out of picture frames corners and other tight spots.

5. Clean cracks. Dip a clean cotton swab in rubbing alcohol and run it through tight crevices, like between the buttons on your phone or remote control.

6. Stop drips. Hang an umbrella upside-down from your ceiling fan or chandelier before you clean it. You will catch dust before it hits the floor.

Molds are organisms which are neither plant nor animal. They are part of the fungi kingdom.   Unlike plants, molds do not get their energy from the sun through photosynthesis. In fact, the sun’s ultraviolet light inhibits mold growth. Molds also digest or “eat” the material they are growing on. The role of mold is to break down decaying organic matter such as dead plants, leaves or dead animals. Types of Health Symptoms from Mold There are three main types of symptoms mold can cause: Allergic and irritant symptoms, toxic symptoms or even infections. Mold Removal Products There are several products you can use to kill and remove mold. Some of the most effective mold removal products include: Bleach, Borax, Vinegar, Ammonia, Hydrogen peroxide, Detergent, Baking soda, Tea tree oil, or Grapefruit seed extract.

The one room in the house that is open for the whole neighborhood to see is often the most unsightly and neglected - the garage. If you are lucky to have one - congratulations; real estate agents claim this is one of the most requested amenities. You can’t beat the convenience and security of having a place to protect one of your largest investments - your vehicle.

However, many people can’t use the garage for its intended purpose because it has become a dumping ground for cast-offs. But there’s hope. All it takes is some weeding out and a simple system that gets your items off the floor and onto the wall.

Here are some steps on how to tackle this project:

1. Set a date. Give yourself a deadline (like a neighborhood garage sale) as an incentive to get the job done. Then write the date on your calendar.

2. Gather your supplies. You’ll need cardboard boxes, heavy-duty trash bags, garbage can, work gloves and, if necessary, a dumpster.

3. Bring in reinforcements. Consider calling in family members, a paid helper or a professional organizer.

4. Divide and conquer. Divide the project into small steps so you can stay on task.

5. Set up the sorting area. Some zones to create outside on the lawn are: ‘donate’, ‘sell’, ‘recycle’, ‘toss’ (dumpster) and ‘keep’. The ‘keep’ area will be subdivided: sporting gear, toys, gardening supplies, etc. Use boxes to sort into categories.

6. Weed out the excess. When we decide to keep it “just in case”, it usually ends up in the garage. As a result, there will be many “no-brainer” items that can be eliminated.

7. No time for visits down memory lane. If you happen to come across any boxes of old mementos that will be time consuming to go through, and perhaps difficult to make decisions on, it’s best to put them aside to deal with later so you don’t get bogged down.

8. Making the tough decisions. If you haven’t used it in years (or ever), can you really justify having it occupy valuable space?

9. Finding homes for your stuff. Now it’s time to put everything back in the garage. Store like things together; this will be easy because you’ve already sorted them in categories.

10. Go vertical or go home. To clear as much floor space as possible so you can park your cars, maximize the vertical space. A no-cost wall storage solution is to nail slats of scrap wood horizontally between the studs of an unfinished garage and store long-handled tools behind them and/or place nails on the wall to hang other supplies. Also for a cost, Rubbermaid has a hook-and-rail system called FastTrack that can be moved around without the use of tools.

The most important step is to begin. Before you know it, your garage will be transformed from a source of embarrassment to a place of pride and a safe home for your vehicle.

Hellen Buttigieg
Certified Professional Organizer, life coach. www.WeOrganizeU.com

Homeowners everywhere are demanding eco-friendly choices.

Enjoying a green home not only helps protect the environment but will also yield you long-term financial benefits. Here are a few environmentally friendly ideas:

1. It’s a Tankless Job - A tankless water heater may cost more initially but you’ll save money in the long run as water’s only heated when it’s needed.

2. Sunny Side Up - Installing solar panels will cut the cost of your electricity bill, and can contribute to the fight against global warming.

3. Breathe Easy - Volatile organic compounds (VOCs) are emitted from building materials such as cabinets, carpet and paint and are detrimental to our health. Improve your air quality by using VOC alternatives.

4. Hug a Tree - Cork, reclaimed wood and bamboo are all environmentally friendly flooring options. The carpet industry is also starting to meet the needs of eco-conscious buyers by using recycled materials and natural fibres.

5. Add-Ons - Consider the environmental impact of your choices when adding extra rooms by insulating the walls and strategically placing windows to take advantage of the sun’s heat.

6. Reuse & Repurpose - Using salvaged and reclaimed building materials for your renovations will add unique style and function to your home while saving the planet and your pocketbook.

Buyers are looking for greener alternatives so making these kinds of changes will help down the road when you’re looking to sell.

1. Aluminum work bench: A sturdy workbench can serve many purposes during painting projects; a ladder, a platform and a seat for time-out. Work benches are durable, lightweight, and can be easily folded and stored away.

2. Painter’s tape: When painting corners and edges, channel your inner-pro and get defined paint lines with a little high-quality painter’s tape. Apply it before painting to protect drywall, wood, metal, glass and trim.

3. Extension pole: Attach an extension pole to your roller will provide leverage and handle twice the painting with half the effort.

4. Application tools: You need a variety of paintbrushes and a few good rollers. Paired with quality paint, the right paint brush is crucial to attain a solid paint job. Having the right tools for a paint job will ensure success and reduce frustration.

The glossier the paint, the more durable it is. Glossy paint also draws the most attention to the surface it is covering. What paint works best where and why?

Camoflage slight surface imperfections. Use flat paint. It’s just right for low-traffic areas like formal living and dining rooms.

Cover minor flaws, yet still gently sponge off dirt. Use eggshell paint. It’s best suited for bedrooms and home offices.

Brighten up a dark space. Use satin paint. It’s best for high-traffic areas like entryways, hallways and family rooms.   Cleanability or durability in high-moisture rooms. Use semi-gloss paint. It’s right for trim, kid’s rooms and bathrooms. High durability or architectural accents. Use gloss paint. It will enhance decorative molding, doors, cabinets and kitchens.

Older paint contains lead. Over the years, governments have regulated the phasing out of lead in paint entirely. If your house was built before 1960, the paint used during construction would have contained a great deal of lead. Reduction started soon after, with complete elimination by the 1980s. If your house was built after 1978, the paint likely has no lead in it.

So what’s wrong with lead based paint? Lead is unhealthy if ingested. And it is surprisingly easy to ingest paint. It has a way of finding its way into our diets, particularly into the diets of toddlers. For instance, painted door jambs and window sashes create paint dust during use. For toddlers who spend a great deal of time on their hands and knees, and who ‘test’ the world through their mouths, this dust presents a serious health hazard if it contains lead.

Dealing with Lead Based Paint
Keep it clean: Lead dust is the problem. Wet mop floors weekly and wipe surfaces to remove the lead dust. Some suggest using special detergents and discarding the mop after use. Information on detergents and cleaning protocols are readily available on the internet.

Encapsulate: The paint on the walls and ceilings are fairly safe because they are not wear surfaces. You can encapsulate these areas using modern paint applied over top.

Replace: Wear surfaces can be replaced rather than encapsulated. For example, you can remove and replace door jams with new wood and refinish.

Remove: Where encapsulation or wood replacement is not practical, you can remove the paint using chemical strippers. This task is time consuming and expensive and should only be done by an expert lead abatement contractor since proper containment is essential.

There is a distinct daily rhythm to our energy levels. Here are some fast-acting way to get those energy boosters.

Tired when you wake? Up dopamine with massage. Chronic stress dampens dopamine output and leads to tiredness. Give yourself a three minute scalp massage to stimulate dopamine production.

Tired mid-morning? Boost boron with nuts. Boron is a mineral essential for stimulating morning production of energizing brain waves. Snack on half a cup of boron-rich almonds or raisins two hours after breakfast.

Tired right after lunch? Steady sugar with berries. The pancreas has its own rhythm, and early afternoon could cause a sleep-inducing energy dip. Just eat a cup of berries, rich in phenolics to help blood sugar.

Tired at dinnertime? Control melatonin with music. The miniscule pineal gland may be out of sync with the sun and produce the sleep inducing melatonin at dinnertime. Upbeat music will alert this gland that bedtime is still hours away.

Spring is a time of renewal so why not bring the season’s vitality into your home by making some simple decorating changes. Here are a few ideas that will help you create a fresh spring feel.

• Change your window coverings to light sheers or blinds.

• Bring nature inside with indoor plants, flowering bulbs and fresh cut flowers.

• Switch cushion covers to lighter spring shades such as yellows and purples.

• Open the windows and let the sunshine in.

Celebrate spring’s arrival by bringing a breath of fresh air into your home. Just a few simple changes can reflect the season’s sunny, fresh energy.

• Lead poisoning does not happen overnight so do not panic.   • For peace of mind, you can test your children for lead poisoning with a simple blood test done by your family physician. • Wash children’s toys often. Toys may collect dust. • Wet mop floors and wipe surfaces weekly to minimize the amount of lead dust. • Have children wash their hands often, especially before meals. • Do not attempt to remove lead based paint yourself as you may create a much bigger problem by spreading lead dust around your house.